02 July 2015

The Birth story

Afi Daniel is 11 months and 1 day old, and I'm here to tell a story of how he came out of me (I like to procastinate like that :P )

Everything that happen on that day is still fresh in my memory (and yet people already asking me to produce the next child.. gosh..let me get over the pain that was nearly unbearable first :D )

I was pregnant with Afi Daniel for 35 weeks and based on normal calculation I still have time to lepak for a few good weeks... but no, he decided to come out and see the world earlier, you impatient lil boy. -__-' I was supposed and have already plan to give birth in Hosp Selayang but well I guess Allah has His own plan. Afi wanted to become a Kedahan like his mom!

(Wed 30th Jul)
It was Raya week and we were in SP. On the 4th raya, we decided to go out and watch a movie, I still remember that I wanted to watch Guardians of Galaxy so much but the only available showtime was midnight, and we decided to watch other movie and was thinking to watch that movie later. After we came back from the movie, while I was performing Isya prayer when suddenly I feel some warm liquid were flowing out from "you know where". But it was not a heavy flow and I didn't feel any kinda pain at all. I told hubs and he asked me if we should go to the hospital and I said chill dulu la, esok baru pi. The whole night the liquid came out and made me wake up a few times to change.

(Thurs 31st July)
So the next morning after Subuh prayer , we headed to the GH. I still act calmly and said to hub that we should go and eat roti canai after the checkup.. but no, I was immediately warded ad been scolded by the nurse saying that I should've go earlier to the hospital because it could be dangerous to the baby. How could I know , Dr Google said it was OK. (So here you go, NEVER trust Dr Google ever again! He is not certified ok guys)

Then came a young male doctor to check the opening and it was quite a painful procedure and I hate it every single time they do this to me until the labor. Feel like kicking em in the face #seriously. So the 1st time the doctor checked, it was only open for 1 cm but because of the 'leaking' issue, I was stright away warded and was not allowed to go back or out at all. Sobs...I still wanted to go and eat roti canai at Mamak.

I was given a pair of pink hospital shirt and pants to change, it was the 1st experience for me to be a patient and warded in a hospital. I didn't feel any contraction until late evening at around 5pm, I started to feel mild contraction every few mins, I thought to myself this isn't bad at all. I can take this. Hub and mom was there. Hub brought the iPad and turn on the Quran app and he recited the Quran too.

No one was allowed to accompany me at the ward except for mom. But I decided to ask mom to go back as there was no extra bed available for her to lie down and she will be tired resting on the chair the whole night. So I was alone the entire night.

My baby was considered as premature because he was only 35 weeks, and because of that they couldn't induce me to make me go to the labor faster. I had to be given 2 dosages of dexa to make the baby's lung stronger and stable. And each dose is given between 12 hours diff. The 1st dose was 12pm Thurs and I needed to wait until 12am Fri for the next dose. The injection was another excruciating phase of the whole thing, it was kinda inserting a very big object that will go thru your blood veins and it lasted for 10 good mins. To make it worse, when they were supposed to give me the 2nd dose, the doctor accidentally induce me, and luckily at that time , the induce med or whatever thing they call it hasn't work yet and the stupid doc take it out immediately from me. So I had to go through unnecessary pain for 2 times! The doctor came and apologize to me many times while I was still bearing the pain. Oh well, this is what happen in GH with young fresh grad docs I guess!

(Fri 1st Aug)
The contraction pain started to build up and by midnight it was starting to be so effing painful, I swear that it is the most painful thing I've ever felt my entire life so far. I was crying  sobbing and due to the unbearable pain, I started to bite the pillow while crying when the contraction started to fire. And the contraction happen for the whole night until my labor which only happen 12 hours later. So can you imagine the pain that I went thru for 12 straight hours! I even asked them to cut me open as it was almost undescribably painful. Hub was at the parking the whole night reciting Quran and also called to check on me, he came once to visit me once and said to the pakguard that he wanted to pass me some thing, and they allowed him to, except he couldn't stay so long. :'(

Because I was warded at class 3 so there were a lot of nurses walking around the area and I called them many times to check on the opening as I couldn't go through the tormenting condition anymore. It was Subuh when they finally decided to push me to the labor room. The opening was only 3cm. They asked me to take a bath and eat some bread. I asked for a husband-friendly labor room so my husband could join me and witness the painful episode. We got the room but suddenly the nurses came and tell me that my husband couldn't be in the room because my baby was premature and there will be a lot of specialist. (dalam hati dok !$@##@#%!!!!) Ok so this is what happen in the GH once again ladies and gentlemen. You can't get what you want. Everything MUST follow rule and sometimes the rule is just being created by the personnel who work at that particular time.

Contraction was still happening and still torturing as hell. I asked for epidural and they said the person who can give that is on Raya leave. For god sake, they don't even have anyone to replace him. Again , GH. So OK, the only thing that was available was the gas and I think I inhale the gas more than I should because I felt giddy until the next morning.

A lot of young doctors came to check on me and there were a few times a rombongan of maybe interns came to check out on my hoohoo like a freaking free show. I couldnt say anything, it is GH and this is what they do. And then came an Indian lady doctor to check on the opening but I can tell you if I have the energy at that time, I would just go and stab her on the chest repeatedly. She seluk that downpart and was digging like crazy as if she was trying to find something in there. She didn't even care that I told her it was damn painful and she continue to do that, for 2 times. Only thing I can do is to pray that she will be involved in a car crash or something , but seriously tho I think she never had a labor experience before and because of that she can't imagine the pain that I HAD TO GO THROUGH. When my husband came in to give me kurma and air zam2, I immediately told him to tell them not to allow that doctor to come and check on me again.

There were only 2 nurses that came to check on me and like I told you they just made up the rule for not allowing my husband to be around the labor room ;'( At around noon, the opening was only 6cm and nurses thought that it will take a few more hours and they left me alone in the room. Few mins after they left, at about 12pm, I started to feel that my baby's head was about to come out and I couldn't hold it anymore, it's not like you can kemut when you want to pee. This is different. hehe..

I thought, finally this is the moment. Baby, please come out of mommy now. I shouted for nurses and when they came in they told me it's time to push. I didn't have any knowledge nor experience and just do it they way I think I should do. I didn't go to any class or watch any youtube video coz I was thinking that I still got 4-5 wks to go :D But Alhamdulillah I was doing the right way and after a few hard push, Afi Daniel finally arrived. :) He was only a small baby weighing at 2.39kg, but it was an OK weight for a premature boy. I was still giddy and when they showed him to me I was a bit blur and coudn't properly see him. They had to immediately brought him to the child specialist ward because his sugar level was low and had to be warded for a week in incubator. It was a hard time for me and hub to see him there but Afi Daniel is surely a strong fighter.

Fresh from the "oven". Afi Daniel at 0 day 30mins :-) 

9mo Afi & Me

10mo Afi & Papa

Mama and papa will always pray the best for you here and in hereafter. Amin